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On the Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack podcast, Christian psychologist, author, and relationship coach, Dr. Jack Ito, will help you to build and restore your marriage. By learning just a few relationship skills, you can help your spouse enjoy your relationship more, while getting more love and affection from your spouse. Listen to Coach Jack as he helps you with one more step toward a marriage both you and your spouse will love.

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Use Boundaries the Right Way Without Pushing Your Spouse Away

January 20, 2026 • marriage help, relationship boundaries, difficult spouse, emotional connection, resentment in marriage, healthy boundaries, marriage coaching, relationship repair • Season 5 • Episode 3

Use Boundaries the Right Way Without Pushing Your Spouse Away

Intro
When boundaries don’t work, they often make conflict worse or quietly increase distance. Many people either use boundaries too early or turn them into rules that provoke resistance. This episode helps listeners understand how to use boundaries in a way that protects the relationship while restoring love and respect.

What You’ll Learn

How to tell the difference between boundaries that heal connection and boundaries that push a spouse away
When boundaries are effective in marriage and when they are likely to backfire
How to sequence self-change, connection, and boundaries for lasting improvement
What healthy boundaries look like in real, everyday situations

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If using boundaries feels confusing or emotionally difficult, working with Coach Jack can help bring clarity and confidence. The Difficult Partner Coaching Package can you get more respect and love from your spouse.

Key Takeaways

Boundaries work best in relationships where connection is already being rebuilt
Boundaries are actions under personal control, not rules imposed on a spouse
Using boundaries too early can increase resistance instead of change
Consistency and calm follow-through matter more than explanations

Additional Resources

Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want, by Jack Ito PhD
Social Skills Quiz

Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

For the full transcript and additional resources, visit Coach Jack's blog at: https://coachjackito.com/blog/confused-about-boundaries-5-key-principles-you-can-use-to-master-them/