Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack
On the Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack podcast, Christian psychologist, author, and relationship coach, Dr. Jack Ito, will help you to build and restore your marriage. By learning just a few relationship skills, you can help your spouse enjoy your relationship more, while getting more love and affection from your spouse. Listen to Coach Jack as he helps you with one more step toward a marriage both you and your spouse will love.
Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack
How to Stop Criticizing Your Spouse (and What to Do Instead)
How to Stop Criticizing Your Spouse (and What to Do Instead)
If you’ve ever found yourself constantly pointing out your spouse’s flaws—hoping it will change them—this episode is for you. In Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover why criticism feels so necessary when things go wrong—and why it actually pushes love further away. Learn how to shift from criticism to leadership in your marriage, especially when your spouse is already distant or resistant.
What You’ll Learn
- Why criticizing feels justified but doesn’t work
- What criticism really communicates to your spouse
- The powerful mindset shift that leads to real influence
- A first step you can take today to change your dynamic
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If you're ready to stop pushing your spouse away and start leading your marriage back to connection, I’d be honored to help. Learn more about Coach Jack's marriage coaching packages.
Key Takeaways
- Criticism—even when honest—damages love and connection in marriage
- Common forms of criticism include open dislikes, “why” questions, unsolicited advice, negative body language, and expressing hopes for change
- Criticism backfires by creating defensiveness or emotional shutdown in your spouse
- To help your spouse improve, focus first on love and connection, not correction
- Replace criticism with positive requests and, if needed, clear boundaries for major issues
Additional Resources
- Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want (Book) – Learn more about ending critical, needy patterns that ruin connection.
- Boundaries posts on Coach Jack's website
- Love Languages Quiz
Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.
For the full transcript and additional resources, visit Coach Jack's blog at https://coachjackito.com/blog/how-to-stop-criticizing-your-spouse-and-what-to-do-instead/