Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack

Common Mistakes That Kill Attraction in Marriage (and How to Rebuild Desire)

Jack Ito PhD, Psychologist, Author, and Relationship Coach Season 4 Episode 27

Common Mistakes That Kill Attraction in Marriage (and How to Rebuild Desire)

Are you worried your spouse just isn’t attracted to you anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn why so many husbands and wives drift into the “friend zone” — and exactly how to become desirable again without looking fake or desperate. Coach Jack breaks down the biggest attraction-killers in marriage and practical ways to rebuild desire step by step.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why attraction naturally fades (and what keeps it alive)
  • Common mistakes that push your spouse away emotionally and physically
  • How to make subtle, lasting changes that reignite desire — without announcing them

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Key Takeaways:

  • Connection and attraction are separate but both essential for a romantic marriage
  • Small, genuine changes are more attractive than big, forced ones
  • “Accept me as I am” is not a strategy — personal growth is

Additional Resources:

Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

For the full transcript and additional resources, visit Coach Jack's blog at https://coachjackito.com/blog/common-mistakes-that-kill-attraction-in-marriage-and-how-to-rebuild-desire/